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Dhani Ramadhani's avatar

I felt seen! Mom of 2 little kids, working full time, trying to launch my substack on parenting in the AI era, be a supportive partner, keeping up with my aging parents who is halfway across the globe, and still taking care of myself.

Who has time for productivity hacks? lol

Great reminder to give ourself some grace 🤍

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Selda Seyfi's avatar

Oh Jees…. Dhani, it’s so hard!

It’s so telling that ‘taking care of yourself’ is last on your list….

What is that saying - you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Yet, that’s what we do, all day, all night.

Thanks for reading, and sharing your thoughts.

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Jothi PM's avatar

chronic sleep deprivation, which is common for parents of young kids, impairs memory, focus, and problem-solving

- this is so true. It took me almost 2 years to perform my job better than other team members. The same job I was doing well before I went on to have a baby.

Not every productivity hack is for working parents.

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Selda Seyfi's avatar

It’s so hard when you don’t get the rest that you need and you’re still expected to perform to the same standards as childless counterparts. How old is yours Jothi? Between my 6 and 2 year olds, I woke up twice last night, one each for both, and then up at 5 for the day. So exhausting!

It could be worse, that’s what I keep telling myself.

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Jothi PM's avatar

Oh, I completely missed to reply. I have 4yo daughter and 3 months old son. I'm still figuring out how to run my day. now on maternity leave. Only god knows how I'm gonna manage once I join work.

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Andreas D.'s avatar

Oh, I can relate.

Yesterday evening, I asked my wife (half-joking): When will they finally move out? They are 4 and 1, btw. 😅

I am exhausted all the time. Between my 9-5, trying to build my own thing here, building our house, watching the kids, repairing the cars and countless other stuff, I have no time to breath. None.

No motivational speech from me. Just this much: Know that I admire your strenght and endurance. From one full-time working parent to another.

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Selda Seyfi's avatar

Thanks so much Andreas. Yours are even younger than mine, and I admire all the things you're trying to build whilst they are so young. Plus, with all the body changes your wife has been through and will continue to go through, it all stacks up.

There's no doubt about it, these first few years are incredibly hard. We just have to try and remember that they won't last forever.

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Andreas D.'s avatar

Thank you! Yes, it is just a phase. Only, it seems like this phase isn't ending. 😅

But hey, I wouldn't have it any other way. They are so great and I would do everything for them. 😊

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Heather Townsend's avatar

Good luck! And I hear you… and my response to that phone call was why couldn’t they call my husband first? Why always me?

It’s important to realise that not everyone has the same 24 hours in a day.

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Selda Seyfi's avatar

Thanks Heather. Yes for some reason they always call me, and not my husband. Quite frustrating! Absolutely, even my own 24 hours each day looks completely different!

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